Home education only needs to do two things well: teach children to be grateful instead of punishing in advance and teach children to deal with problems
Many parents mistakenly believe that moving classroom education to the home is the implementation of home education. "Wrong way! According to Zhang Hanqiang, no matter young parents or the older generation, as long as they can fulfill two tasks of tutoring: cultivating children's love and developing their children's rational ability, they are excellent parents.
Teach your child gratitude
Often listen to mothers pour the bitter water: "What gave him, he is not satisfied, but also always complain that we do not care about him."
There are such a group of children in life, they have been loved by their families since childhood, they take their appreciation, care, tolerance for granted. If parents and elders do not meet their needs, they will feel sorry for him, lose their temper and even fight against their family members.
It is not the children's fault, because many parents do not create opportunities for their children to truly experience the feeling of being loved and given love. Every parent has heard the story of a father tentatively begging his child for ice cream. The child is very willing to put the ice cream to the father's mouth. "What a generous baby! Daddy won't eat, you eat." Once or twice, Dad was satisfied with his success. One day, a guest came to the home, father let the child take something to the guests to eat, the child also generous to do, did not expect the guests really eat, the child suddenly crying.
Zhang said parents should not just go through the motions, which could give children the illusion. For the child's conscious, unconscious love, to give timely affirmation, the child will get satisfaction from your smiling face. For the child's affirmation to pay attention to skills, evaluation must be the child's specific behavior and behavior to bring the results together.
Put punishment in front of you
Do you punish children? Many parents don't admit it, but privately beat their children to tears. Some parents do not ask the child to beat up first, this is the most unwise. Some parents are very taboo to punish their children and praise their children forever. Personally, punishment is also a means of education, reward and punishment should be measured.
What acts are punishable? What's the punishment? Parents must make an agreement with their children beforehand. It is worth reminding that this punishment is only for moral misconduct, not for everything. For example, the discovery of children lying, parents once insight, should be timely in accordance with the agreed punishment, do not wait until the child will lie after the habit of correction.
Developing children's rational ability is the second important task of family education. Rational ability in other words is the ability to deal with problems and choose methods. Parents should avoid thinking for their children and arranging their children's choices.
In the first month of school, a strange phenomenon often appears in the classroom of the first grade of primary school: after school, parents sit in the classroom, in front of the blackboard to copy homework questions, but the children play outside the classroom. Later, the child thinks it is the parents' duty to copy homework. But some parents know how to inspire children: you have to copy homework every day, we have to go to work how to do? What if I don't show up for work and get fired? Can you get another parent to copy it? Could you ask the teacher to copy it for you? After much thought, the child finally found a way to solve the problem on his own -- to practice his memory and write down the homework requirements assigned by the teacher.
"Encourage your child to think and make choices, even if they are ridiculous." Zhang Hanqiang said that parents should not use the outcome of the perfect degree to evaluate the children's thinking process, to strengthen the child's trying process, but not to strengthen the outcome of the attempt.